How to disagree agreeably

There will always be conflicts that you have to handle in life. Even as a small child you might fight with your siblings and adulthood is not that much different. So it is important to learn how to handle conflict and learn to disagree agreeably.

Conflicts must be handled by having respectful and calm conversations. Everyone disagrees at some point with other's point of view. The skill is to learn how to speak your mind without resorting to name calling or unpleasant interactions.

• Learn to pick your battles. It is not important to fight on every issue but it is important to speak up if you feel an issue matters to you and you feel if you stay quiet you would feel resentful.

• Wait until you are calm. Never engage or have the conversation when you are feeling emotional. you can never take back a word you said in the heat of the moment.

• Be respectful. When someone is telling you their grievance, listen calmly and try to see things from their point of view.

• Speak for yourself and do not attack or criticize the other person. State your case from your point of view by making "I feel or I think" statements.

• Dont interrogate the other person. People can become defensive if they feel that you are attacking them by asking a lot of yes and no questions.

• State the facts. Tell the other person facts about why you feel the way you do. Don't bring up any past grievances stick to what is at hand.

• Aim to clear the air. Don't argue to win a battle or show that your thinking is right and they are wrong. It is more important to try to understand what the other person is thinking and feeling.

• Always be willing to compromise. You can't always get what you want but compromising can be an effective way to overcome a disagreement.